Why is it that the eyes above all other facial features reveal so much about a person? The human eye is truly one of the great wonders of nature. In fact, nothing on earth can compete with the incredible precision of your eyes, which relay over 2 billion messages to and from your brain every second.
Approximately 90% of everything we learn in our lifetime is learned through our eyes. Many years ago at Oxford University in England a group of male psychology students were shown two photos of the same woman and asked which of the two appeared more attractive.
All but three independently made the same choice. Why? The two photos were virtually identical, the lecturer conducting the experiment explained. There was one subtle difference between these two photographs which the students were not consciously aware. This difference was significant, and virtually all men subconsciously respond to it. That difference lay in the pupils of the woman's eyes.
Sex, love and romance are all revealed in the eyes. A passionate nature, a romantic personality and even a strong sex drive can be observed in the eyes. Psychologists and anthropologists have observed and demonstrated in controlled studies that, in matters of love, the eyes have a language of their own.
Love and attraction are associated with the eyes from birth. When you were born, all you could see was the shape of mother's face and her eyes.
Even after six weeks, when your vision began to improve, the one thing that made you feel safe and made you smile was the recognition of your mother's eyes, the pupils of which were very large every time you made eye contact. In fact, as a baby you were more concerned with your mother's eyes than any other facial feature.
As a result of your childhood, it is the eyes that remain the central stimulus for love and attraction throughout your life. This means that when you meet someone to whom you are physically and sexually attracted, your eyes reveal this information.
Fortunately, their eyes also tell you whether they are attracted to you. Many people spend so much time and energy trying to find out whether another person finds them attractive, but all it takes to find out is a close look at their eyes.
How do someone's eyes tell you if they are attracted to you? Their pupils dilate. The more they dilate, the more they are attracted to you. This is a completely involuntary reaction. We are not even aware we are doing it and we cannot control it. But whenever we have feelings of love toward another person ... our pupils dialate.
This same response occurs when we are sexually excited. Researchers have shown that when sexually explicit films are shown to men, their pupils dilate to almost three times their normal size. Interestingly, when the same films are shown to women, their pupils dilate even more.
Enlarged pupils--the first sign of physical attraction and sexual excitement--also trigger a response that begins the sexual relationship. Dilated pupils in two people are a signal of mutual appeal that makes both of them want to be more intimate, closer to each other, to touch and hold one another. As a note of interest, certain drugs such as cocaine, belladonna and atropine will temporarily dilate the pupils.
Constricted pupils in the beginning of a relationship should ring warning bells because the eyes are in effect telling you that the person is not deeply attracted to you. Remember that pupils respond to light, and we are referring to normal light conditions. In fact, psychological experiments have demonstrated that the only men whose pupils constrict when looking at a picture of a pretty woman who has dilated pupils are either homosexual or Don Juan types--girl chasers who seek to conquer a girl sexually and then move on to another, being unable to commit to a lasting relationship.
After the pupils have dilated, the next intimate signal is also in the eyes, but this time it lies in the way we look at the object of our desire. Experiments into gazing have revealed that there is a lover's gaze: a mutual gaze which is stronger and more intense than seen in ordinary social situations or between strangers.
Psychologists have demonstrated that when we socialize, our gaze is usually limited to a triangle made up of the eyes and mouth of the person we are looking at. However, when we are sexually interested in a person, our gaze moves from this triangle to their chest/breasts and even down to their genital region. This is another subconscious response which informs the other person that you are sexually interested. If they are interested in you, they will return the gaze, too.
Choosing the right partner can be difficult during the best of times. How can you be sure anyone is truly compatible and that a relationship will last? Well, who knows? People resort to astrology, numerology, palmistry and even computerized psychoanalysis in search of their answers. Perhaps we are best guided by our intuition or "gut feeling".